Everyday is just another fricken adventure isn't is Jeff? I am understanding more and more of it all of the time, although I'm not sure it really matters or makes anything different. For example, I can clearly see that I was in a pretty depressed state a year ago and before that. It is so clear to me now. It is also the place that you are clearly in. The problem is, I don't know what I could have done, if anything to make it different than it was. I went to a C, I got put on meds, what else was I to do? Yet, where I was then and where I am now are so completly different (and better) and I'm really sure that if I could see a year from now, it would be all that much better yet.
Forgive me since so many of these sitches seem to run together here, and I'm just not all that great with remembering who is who and which one is which. I say this because I don't really remember if you thought that an EA or PA was part of your sitch. I could just tell you with extreme confidence that there clearly is not an OM in the picture now - not with your wife's behavoir.
So what do you do? Well, my best suggestion is to just let it all happen and roll with it. If ExW calls to talk, great! If not, that's fine too. Just as long as what she says or does is not causing problems for you, just let it happen. Hold your ground, don't let her walk on you or even push with 1 pound more of pressure than you can take. But don't look for problems either way. If I am any indication, you will end up in a very good place. It's just going to take time to do it. It's almost like part of the rules for all of this. Evidently you have to put in some crap time in order to move to the next level.
I have no idea of that helps or every makes any sense. Hopefully it does. Most importantly, be sure to keep providing all of this to your friends on here. We don't want to let you slip through the cracks with any of this!
