Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

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FA,

Thanks, I know I did the right thing with her. She called and thanked me for not listening to her. I guess she has missed the physical touch in her R, she's is going through a D also. She said she comes to town on business about every 6 weeks and wants to stay in touch. It felt great that she found me attractive and yes it would feel very good to hear it from W. I am starting to think about dating, funny a month ago I wouldn't even consider it. But after the incident with my old friend it has me wondering and missing that feeling of being close to someone who wants to be close to me.

It is good to be reminded to look at how far we have come instead of how little movement there is on the S's part today. Thanks for reminding me to look at the larger picture. I know I've said that myself to others, I should follow my own advice, thanks for that. You're right I look at how I feel today and I have detached, I don't think about what W is doing or where she is going or who she's with.

If H is following your list is that so bad? He knows what you want to see from him and he is doing what is needed. I think you know things will not go back to normal. We cannot go back to what was and have to move forward to a "new" normal. I think there are times that a R talk is OK. I think early on in our DBing we shouldn't initiate R talks because it is seen as pursuing. It could be time for you and H to have a talk, definitely not an ultimatum, to set some goals on how to move forward, what he needs from you and what you need from him.

I do think your close and will continue to keep you in my prayers. Thanks again for pointing out not to look for change from day to day, but to look at the big picture over a longer period of time.

Mike