I finally sent H a text last Monday (3/17) and he responded. Both of us were brief - I just noted that there had been no sign of him for a while and was he ok, was he on spring break. (I tried to keep it light.) He said he'd been gone a while but was back & busy. I asked if he wanted me to bring his mail to office (because of the bad weather/roads. He said yes. I didn't happen to be in my office when he picked up mail, so he left a sticky note that said he was sorry he missed me. That was the end of that. Yesterday, I had to call him to come over to my office and sign a check so that I could deposit it. He came over right away. Visited for about 5 minutes. It was pleasant enough - the problem is that I really don't have much to say so it's hard for me to do the lighthearted, casual convo, DB routine. I tend to be more of a listener than a talker and I just am not one to talk about myself and tell stories or make conversation. But he told me a couple of things that I responded to and we joked about a bit. For instance, while he was in the parking lot to my office, a woman walked right into him and just kept going. He couldn't believe it. At home last night there was a msg fr his dentist, so I sent a txt abt that and asked if he avoided attack for the rest of the day. He sent a funny answer back and I responded "be alert!" Then nothing more - I really wish that the txt exchange had ended with him and not me, but not a big deal. So far this month this is the sole extent of my contact with H. In some ways, I am grateful that we are not fighting and our sitch is not full of drama, but on the other hand, I do not have much to work with in terms of DB.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now