ST, I still have a really hard time understanding this concept of forgiveness, at least in the context of on-going infidelity. Do you forgive in advance all of the sins that are yet to be committed? Heck, I don't even think it is my job to forgive my W. After more than a year in this sitch, I see that the sins are not against me, but rather against her own word.
I am not angry with my W, I treat her with respect, esp. in front of the kids, and demand that they respect her as well. HOWEVER, I do not trust her, don't like who she has become, and definitely do not want to be with this person for the rest of my life. I guess at least for me, forgiveness did not even seem to be part of the equation.
Love to hear your take on it. (You can respond on my thread if you like and end my hijack!)
SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
