Yes, I think so. A few times, we have been talking, and she has said "damn, I feel myself falling under your spell again". I don't want that...I want her to feel she is a 50-50 partner in our marriage.
The thing is... that may not be what SHE wants. she may not want to be a "50/50 partner". That may make her feel like "one half of a person". She may want to feel like "two individuals" right now.
Thats why it's important to eventually figure out what she is looking for, in this "journey" of hers, and then reassure her that you want to support her in the direction that she wants to grow in.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
