Mink, Thanks for the support. Not for nothing but something concerns me about what you said about your W "after a couple of glasses of wine". Is this the real her? I am sensitive to this because I now feel that my W drinks to much and it effects her life and the decisions she makes everyday. It effects her depression, it effects her sleep pattern, it effects our relationship and the way she interacts with me. She is a tiny girl who drinks 4 or 5 beers a day. Not good and it is not the real her. i want the real her.

I love the positive changes in your W. My wife has only made negitive changes. Yes everyday is a repeat of the last and maybe getting worse not better. I know i need to do something but what is the question? I am getting advise from all angles and that is tough also. I try to talk to her but no words are getting through. Geat Eagles lyrics, thanks! Stay in tough and i wish you well.