WAW...now the LBS Part 2

[HOPEFULinCALI]

I first started to turn around when he went overseas without me for a month and barely contacted me. He had gone the year before for a month but we spoke and emailed everyday the year before. Having the space from him and him not seeming to care really made me realize that I wasn't so comfortable with the thought of living my life without him.

Then I really turned around when he dropped the bomb and realized that I needed to make some changes. I furthermore realized that I was in love with him and hadn't fallen out of love at all like I previously thought.

I have been playing nurse maid still. He seems to be making plans for all kinds of trips, Mexico, Greece, New York. And making plans for more people to stay at our house as he has several times since the bomb. My coach suggested several alternatives to "stir the pot", but said to be cautious b/c any of the alternatives could save my marriage or undue the progress I have made. It's a guessing game as to what will work. I have thought of filing, for real not to the phantom filer like he did. The threat of divorce was all I needed, but I left him in the first place so that is why we are here now. I fear that will only show him my lack of commitment yet again.