Wow - I have to comment too. Bruce really said some things that hit me in a new way.
Purr - we must have been on the same wavelength. After weeks of doing good I was suddenly hit with a load of doubt and apprehension yesterday. Felt like I could hardly breathe.
My W has also turned into a cold b*tch after a month of almost being ready to reconcile. I'm positive it's guilt over the fact that she's choosing OM, but still ...
But the question Bruce asks - do you really want to be with that type of person? That's the hard one, isn't it. That's where I'm at and the answer is no, so why do we find it so hard to let it go? Just because of the history? Because it's hard to stop loving someone no matter how cruelly they treat you (though that really doesn't seem right - I find it pretty easy to avoid people who are nasty to me)?
