The immediate departure of H after the snuggling could just be the classic "men are rubber bands" behavior from Mars and Venus... Apparently a lot of guys have an uncontrollable urge to distance themselves after intimacy, even if they are totally solid with their relationship. So... I wouldn't worry about it! But--congratulations! you have come SO OOOOOOO far!!!! Can you see the progress???? I hope some day to emulate you !!!
I am sorry to hear about your Mom--you are in my prayers. Hopefully everything will have a very simple and harmless explanation!
have a beautiful easter with your daughter!! (((HUGS))) T
