Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[ddstartingover]

LMG - I finally decided to stop in and post on your thread. My H had his 45th bday on the 7th of this month. He insisted that he DID NOT want to do ANYTHING for his bday (MLC anyone???) Of course the kids could not oblige. So, I made a cake and S9 made H a card with pics of each of them in. D14 made him a humorous card. i bought some presents to be from all of us. He handled it ok, quiet. I think the card from S touched him. We had a pretty good weekend----followed by the e-mail on the 10th declaring once again that it was over and we needed to get on with the D.

I need to do better with getting out with friends. I do a lot with the kids without first wondering if we should try to include H, or get back home in time to see H.

I told H in an e-mail prior to the first e-mail declaring it was time to D. I told him that living like THIS was not good for the kids----meaning that seeing parents living in a non-loving relationship was not good for them---to learn about healthy relationships. He seemed to take it as yet another reason he needs to leave...........

I'm rambling. I'm here for support. We do seem to have a lot in common. Hopefully we will both find success....in whatever
WE decide is best for each of us.