you have given OW several points in this... a) you have paired your H & OW against you..you are now the common enemy
b) ow needs rescuing from you by your H
c) you have given your H huge validation for what he is doing.
so yup im not gonna lie to you.....OW has made it into the bonus round. it was a stunt similar to that i believe that made my h file a few weeks later. except ow didnt come out.
i was alot like you, i had this crazy sense of fairness to an obsession point. very unhealthy. i had to let it go
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest