[quote=emily22]I am unsure where you on in your sitch... Have you made some goals up for yourself? Do you have any DBing ideas? Things you CAN and SHOULD be doing?
I have not done this in a concrete way. I have been trying not to discuss R, but flounder on this sometimes. I have cut back drastically on contacting H. I read DB at the very beginning, at that point I thought I was recovering from an affair, I was being the greener grass, being the best person he would love to come home to. Then I found out he was still in contact with her(not physical to my knowledge). It threw me right off track and I no longer have the book as reference.
Neecy, just because he is still with OM doesn't mean that some of the DB principles won't work. No, he's not going to let you meet his physical or emotional needs right now, and C is usually worthless at this stage. But the DB principles that focus on YOU can be very helpful, and have the double benefit of also making you more attractive to him.
