Confused as Ever

[Snow White]

I am unsure where you on in your sitch...
Have you made some goals up for yourself?
Do you have any DBing ideas?
Things you CAN and SHOULD be doing?

I have not done this in a concrete way. I have been trying not to discuss R, but flounder on this sometimes. I have cut back drastically on contacting H. I read DB at the very beginning, at that point I thought I was recovering from an affair, I was being the greener grass, being the best person he would love to come home to. Then I found out he was still in contact with her(not physical to my knowledge). It threw me right off track and I no longer have the book as reference.

Where are you in Canada? My paternal grandmother was originally from London, Ont

I am near Niagara Falls, I have had to go to London a hadful of times for work it is about 2 1/2 hours away. I live right on the border of Buffalo, NY. Go BILLS!!!