Hello Mr. MLC part deux!!

[AliSuddenly]

Hi MMB,

I havent posted before but I follow your sitch, from reading your helpful comments on RTLs thread.

I think you answered your own question MMB...you said it was emotionally horrible and ...well, you started out full of bravado about it, a friend with great benefits etc..then ended up sounding a tad regretful. It made me sad to be honest to read it. I hope you are ok. If the subject comes up with your H again, perhaps you can express regret over it, or be honest and not tough it out and pretend like its so great to have a f*** buddy, because perhaps it isnt.

Also..sounds like a no strings thing for both of you, reading between the lines there..is he M or separated too this man? Cos that would make it more complicated and not a good idea I guess. I speak from experience, I had an EA that tipped into a no strings nearPA for a short while, we were both attached. What seemed like a great fun arrangement at the time turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life and the guilt and fall out from it were definetly not worth it. I told my BF in the end too, he also said he would kill him for hurting me (so I think your H must still have feelings for you as this is what he said), but the OM never told his GF. He went on to marry her and she never knew. Which I thought was terrible, but thats another story.

Are you having C? It may be better to explore the hurt and rejection there than go and act it out with someone. Its interesting that your H wanted all the gory details, it may have dented his ego that you could have "moved on" so quickly. But of course you havent in your heart. I would pull back from this friend pronto and maybe pull back from your H. I wish you luck this week. Its a week of truth.

Ali x
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Me: 37
H: 34
T: 9 years
ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07
Own apartment: 26 Jan 08