Hang in there man. I'm sorry your head hurts. I know it's hard but try to find that positive energy that's inside you. Take care of yourself and the rest will follow.
I just don't understand how my WAW can just go on like there is nothing wrong at all. She has to be out of her mind. Sorry just venting today. So tired of feeling like she didn't even care about the last 11 years of our life together.
Just got back in town and thought I'd check in on you. How's it going?
I know your W seems suddenly different. Bizarre, but it happens. My W doesn't care about the last 12 of our life. Yet she wants the things we used to do together, go figure. Of course, she's involved with OM, which is the complication.
Listen, you need to understand the same thing I'm trying to accept - this isn't about her anymore, it's about you. There were problems in the M that escalated and reached a breaking point. Should they have broken? Don't you deserve a partner who will work to make the R function? If so, will your W do that?
It's a hard reality to confront, but that's the position both you and I are in. If you have any great insights, let me know. I'm just doing my best to survive. Unfortunately, at this point that means giving up on W.
Well had to talk to her about finances today and unfortunately turned to some R talk. She felt forced to have to marry me cause of the joint debt we had didn't know how else to pay it. Had a lot of doubts and fundamental personality flaws that make her feel there is no need to even want to work out anything.
Guess this WAW is completely out the door and never coming back.
Avoid R talk at all costs. Trust me - I kept sliding into them for 5 months. Best results I ever had was when I just wouldn't go there no matter how hard she pressed. It's HARD, really hard, but just try to do it. Consider it a 180 and see what happens.
No one marries because of debt. She's justifying. Don't believe everything she says. If she has personality flaws, well, that's a different matter. That's about her and you have no control over that. So don't take it on. That's about her and leave it with her. If she can't address it, she's going to have to carry it around with her through her entire life.
What are you doing to GAL? How are you trying to keep a PMA? What steps have you done to take care of yourself?
I have taken up a lot of things, sports, working out, hanging out with friends, and working on my faith.
I just feel discouraged. She just seems so focused on getting this done so quickly. Just hate feeling so good but like a big chunk of my heart is missing.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Thanks Mink, I am just tired mentally and emotionally. Feel good otherwise but again I reaped what I sowed. I know it was both of us but I do take fault for my contribution to this mess.
I just pray to God for some mercy and rest atm. I am really tired. Don't know how much more I can take.
Just checking in on you. I know that tiredness - it gets better with time and through distractions. How much can you take? More than you thought you could. Hang in there - one day at a time.
