It's Really Over, Throwing Him Out~ this so hard

[water2moon]

Hi Puppy..sorry you've gone through this too..I have never felt such hurt in my life..I never expected it from my H. I don't know who he is anymore. I did tell him that he needed to decide her or me back in Februaary and he really did end it, that was when she started calling and texting..But it lasted 2 weeks and it started again.I recently discovered more lies, he got another cell phone recently so they can continue talking and texting. He also opened a bank account with her to save for the future..And I think he has his money from work now going directly into that account. It's like he's slowly severing all ties with me..it hurts.

Water,



I read your other thread, and one thing occurs to me: have you ever tried to take him up on his offer of claiming to end all contact, by asking him to help set up a plan whereby you can feel he is following it? He wants to be "treated like an adult," well call him on that bluff (probably not today, but he'll try to come crawling back, trust me). When he does, say "OK, I am willing to work at this, and I don't want a divorce, but I absolutely refuse to have a third person in our marriage. You need to end it with her, and set up a plan whereby I know that you have, that is provable to me, in order for me to be able to rebuild trust with you." There are plans out there that do just that.

We see all types of wayward spouses on these boards. Some really don't care about their families, and others seem to TRY to be strong and come back to them, but are just weak and they relapse into the affair. Just based on the VERY brief info that you've given us in the two threads, your husband seems to me to possibly be the latter.

Just a thought.

Puppy