Absolutely agree with you-I think a good benchmark is that if you know that 10/20 years from now you know you gave it your all you can live a life with no regret- I no way want to trivilise any-one's efforts.
I absolutely Hate the word Divorce and don't want that status-but the reality is that it's a possibility and seeing that the ladies on surviving the big d are upbeat positive happy despite the fight they've put up gives me hope of a different kind I suppose -Does this make sense?
And who know's what the future holds? No-one - unless you count Ali on MLC thread who does astrology-how fab is that!