Wandering Poster - Number Nine

[troubled_husband]

DH,

The nice thing about a CoDA meeting is that it is like AA. You can go and just sit and listen. Then see if it fits. It it doesn't fit, you either aren't codependent or you aren't ready, either way it's not for you at the time. If it helps, then that is what it is designed for. People at meetings range in the codependent behaviors from mild to severe.

Please note part of our preamble.

"Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships."

A typical meeting is primarily people just talking through there issues. Sometimes one person's issues makes another person think about their own. What I like is it the 'safety' of the discussion. Speaking in the 'I' is manditory. So no condemning comments, sarcasm, judgement. And no yelling at each other. It is a kind of practice of communication skils for me.

Not trying to push, just inform. Some people just don't know what to expect and so avoid a meeting. It is something you can check out without a commitment. Indeed, no one ever asks for a commitment. I stay because I made a commitment to myself, not anyone else. That is one of the principles.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Thanks, troubled, I appreciate it!

I looked at the meetings, and currently there isn't anything around that would work, but I will keep an eye on things, as well os other resources. I'm not sure the shoe totally fits, but it isn't totally out of the question, either!

[MichelleLT]

(((Jeff)))

Wasn't on the BB much today and was feeling left out of all the hugs, and the best way to get one is to give one!

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((Michelle))))))

[MichelleLT]

Yay!

[AliSuddenly]

hey Jeff..yes, I thought it was interesting too. I agree 100% with you, do the medical tests, of course. But acupuncture can really help with emotional problems. My BF did see an excellent acupuncturist back home for a while after his Dad died and he was so much improved in himself. I think C isnt necessarily for everyone and if you arent ready or dont want to, whatever, a good acupuncturist can "shift" things emotionally for you. I know my BF would benefit from going back, but I cant suggest it.

I wonder what your Doc would say about a link between depression/ stagnation and liver problems though ??? Interesting...

Ali x

[WCW]

But acupuncture can really help with emotional problems.

I'll 2nd that again. It helps with physical problems too!

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((Ali)))))(((((WCW)))))
You know, there was a time when I would have jut sort of shaken my head at the thought of acupuncture. Now, I'm not so sure. I am taking your suggestions seriously.

It's a beautiful day here, if I have any sense I'll spend some time outside!

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Jeff...its over 5000 years old...its been proven in clinical trials to work...you can even get it on the NHS for free in the UK (only "alternative" remedy you can get I believe). Dont knock it till you tried it! I had a recurring virus for 2 1/2 years that the doctors couldnt treat or solve despite lots of tests. Acupuncturist cured me within a couple of sessions. I didnt know whether to cry or kiss him. I think my BF wouldnt have sunk into depression if he'd kept going as he was so much better when he was. Oh and its FREEZING here!

Ali x

[MichelleLT]

Vitamin D helps a lot too so soak up the sunshine! Just don't get burned.

Hope you had a great day! (((Jeff)))