Unless someone is seriously being abused, we should never encourage someone to leave their spouse.People come here to be uplifted, to get hope...to learn to do things differently. [/b][/i]
What if the spouse isn't physically abusive but wanders back and forth between you and OW/OM for YEARS!!!! What if your spouse marries OW/OM? What if your spouse is consistently adamant that the M is over? What if spouse continuously cheats and you've given him/her chance after chance?
There really are times when you have to let them go and save yourself and your children. Putting your kids through this type of R is, IMO, worse than just kicking the dirtballs out and moving on with your life.
That's my 2 cents!!! I was miserable in my M. He was not abusive just couldn't seem to be faithful......for years. I stayed with him until our D graduated from HS. Now that I've seen how great life can be, I wish I would've kicked him out sooner. I feel like I wasted most of my life "trying" to make our M work. By the time it was over, I not only hated him but I hated myself for being such a sap.
