RTL, you are right, if your wife believed for one moment that something wrong was going on between you and a four year old, she would never release her to you. As far as I can tell, there is no court order for her to let you see your D. So if she was worried she would just not give her to you. She has sealed her own fate in the custody battle with this, because the first thing the court will say is why did allow D to go with him. making accusations and not backing them up with actions is not a good idea. These charges are taken very seriously and it is so good you involved your L. You should record everything. It is absurd, your w is worried about money yet she has no problem running up legal bills for you both. It sounds like she wants revenge not a divorce. She should not be questioning your D about abuse unless she has real evidence. She is damaging this child and making a tough situation even worse. Deal with your l and the court, not your W. by making this accusation she has put you into a situation where , right now you can't trust her in any way.
