The nice thing about a CoDA meeting is that it is like AA. You can go and just sit and listen. Then see if it fits. It it doesn't fit, you either aren't codependent or you aren't ready, either way it's not for you at the time. If it helps, then that is what it is designed for. People at meetings range in the codependent behaviors from mild to severe.
Please note part of our preamble.
"Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships."
A typical meeting is primarily people just talking through there issues. Sometimes one person's issues makes another person think about their own. What I like is it the 'safety' of the discussion. Speaking in the 'I' is manditory. So no condemning comments, sarcasm, judgement. And no yelling at each other. It is a kind of practice of communication skils for me.
Not trying to push, just inform. Some people just don't know what to expect and so avoid a meeting. It is something you can check out without a commitment. Indeed, no one ever asks for a commitment. I stay because I made a commitment to myself, not anyone else. That is one of the principles.
H - 47 W - 44 M - 18+ years Separated? - 4/07 S - 13 S - 15
