LO, No one is the winner. OW may think she is but she isn't. She may think your H is the prize, but maybe he's really a booby prize. Time will tell. She's been pursuing a fantasy for awhile, life isn't "happily ever after."
I know I'm not anywhere near the same sitch as you, but you're certainly in my thoughts. You've been calm and strong through this. You can certainly hold your head up high because of that.
I know it's nice to be able to laugh again. One point it didn't seem possible, did it? Life goes on no matter what. Keep on smiling...
