Ask yourself when making goals "what do you want more of in your relationship." Now having stole that from another post...I can safely say that I am far from giving goal advice but I can ask the following...
regarding #2) What would it take before that happens? #1 - fun and interesting can be vague...what do you mean by this? You say it is working so what is it about the conversations that is working? I feel like I know what you mean but I was asked the same question when I said I want meaningful conversations with my WAW. It is vague. Be specific.
#3 increase physical contact - vague, you are touching, so what do you want. perhaps increased or maybe her to initiate a kiss or something. I think physical contact is vague. If you are touching that is physical contact. So, I think you need to be more specific and I am not talking bedroom...I had this goal once, but changed it b/c I think a lot more needs to happen first, but I specifically said things like hold hands...
I am not good a goals, so as a suggestion, you might want to notify a moderator - you can do this by clicking notify on your post and leaving them a message and why. They can give you some help...way more than I can.
You do want action oriented and positive and I would wonder if changing "for us" to "for her". Your subject in each one changes, #1 is nobody but implied you two, #2 is her and #3 is specific "us". I imagine it'd be helpful to state those as either her or you.
You mention a good bit after your goals...I'd put all those on the shelve. Pick two or three goals - refine them. Then set your sights on JUST THOSE. If need be make a list of ways to achieve those goals. I have a long list like for example - talk less, listen more, avoid awkward topics, blah blah. By doing that you set your sights on just the most important things. Obviously my goal is to get home, but a lot needs to happen before. So that is not one of my three goals. I hope that helps clarify what I mean.
Have you tried a DB coach session? I imagine they could give you tremendous insight/advice on your sitch. Pricey, I know, but it's worth it...
p.s. I notified moderator to look at your goals and assist you. I just feel they would point you clearer.
