Originally Posted By: Marcum
im sitting in front of my computer and fighting the urge to write her a letter. I want to reach out to her and tell her i im not giving up. since she finaly told me what the problems were in the marrage ( neglect and lack of respect) UI soo want to write her and tell her and ask how i DID show this .


I personally think that the general sentiment, is a great idea. It's not anti-db: it's called "communication" ;-)
Depending on how you ask, and how you respond to what she says, it is also an excellent opportunity to show validation for her feelings. to show that you are really paying attention to her now.


I think the important things to remember, are to think out a way to ask this question, in a way that does NOT come off as "defending yourself".

and also... probably allowing a bit of cool-off time first would be good, too.

Plus... you had good communcation face-to-face. So, stick with that. Unless you KNOW you have good "R communication" between the two of you in email.
Do you know that to be true?



Last edited by Dom R; 03/21/08 10:31 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle