2nd Post: My H just returned for a second time

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I think you are on the right track. In reality even the best (and you seem to be) can use a little tweaking to get the results they want.

Michele once told me something like no matter how much the guy loves me, he isn't going to be a completely different person. (I can't remember what that is in response to.)

There are some things that the other person completely has to take care of himself (like his alcoholism)...and you just hope and pray that he does it.

I think that's true in your case. There are situations where I think folks use that as a cop out for not really evaluating the way THEY interact with their spouse.


Of course...that isn't you.