MIL visited today, she asked S16 why he doesn't answer his phone when H rings, S16 then told her that H doesn't ring, she then said he does and he sends you text messages. S16 then told her no he doesn't, I have my phone on and with me all the time, my dad never rings me or asks about me, if he has told you he does then he is lieing.
It's de ja vous, seem to remember the same conversation approximatly 12 months ago.
I understand what is happening, H is playing the victim, deflecting from his own failures, passing blame, eliminating himself from the problem - the problem being that H has allowed his relationship with his sons deteriorate to a state where there is now no means of communication, and H is unable to take the step to build a bridge between them.
I feel sad for MIL, I think deep down she knows the truth, she just doesn't want to believe it.
