I hope so Vali. Sometimes I'm not so sure anymore.
Earlier today D12 realised she had forgotten Hs birthday. So had S15 but he seemed unworried about it. It seems D17 did send him a card. So D12 spent time making him a card today and phoned to apologise for forgetting. She wanted to go round this afternoon to take the card but H said he was going out. He later phoned to say it would have to be tomorrow as he was going to be out most of the day. I could tell she was disappointed. I gave her a hug. It's all I could do.
About half an hour ago she phoned him again and he is now back home so she asked if I would take her round there. Of course I agreed although I don't like going to his flat it hurts too much. I made her check that he wasn't expecting her to just drop off the card and go. I didn't want her stranded. She came back a few seconds later and said she is staying for a while. This will be very hard for her b/c due to her not liking OW she hasn't been for getting on for a year. I'm hoping H will bring her home as I really can't face going there twice in one night.
It did give me an opportunity to see that his flat is still on the market. I know he was asking a silly price for it and no-one had even been into the estate agent to ask about it. I don't know if they have dropped the price but previously he told D17 that they could only afford to move if they got the price they were asking. I assume that he is hoping to get some money out of me from the financial settlement so that they can move. Meanwhile I hoping he is going to sign the house over to me like he has been saying all along he is going to do. We will have to see which L is best at getting what their client wants.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
