Minkerman: Soothing the skittish spouse!

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MM,
So when she says she thinks she needs more time, maybe that's all it is. It's all about her, and nothing you can do or say will speed it up. Out of your control, let it go, be patient.

Then, when she gets herself figured out, and you've got your GALing in high gear, you both can work on how to merge these two wonderful new people without losing what you've gained. Sounds tricky to me :-P