Hey Jeff, Take it one step at a time, my friend. Dont get ahead of yourself by worrying too much. Too bad your wife doesnt like your sense of humor, to me that is one of the most important things in life. It got me through some pretty difficult times.
So, take care of you. Think positively. Eat well. Exercise. Meditate and pray. And remember, the positive energy being sent your way could cure many things. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm not much of a worrier! I let W handle that, she seems to enjoy it. I will be happy to get to the bottom of this, but I haven't lost any sleep over it! I do need to improve some of my habits on diet and exercise and such, I think that would help me feel bi better in general!
I really appreciate the positive energy from so many of you! It really helps!
Hey Jeff, sorry that yuo have to go and have a bit chopped off then! But yes, the liver is amazingly robust an organ isnt it. I hope the doctors are being helpful with your concerns and answering your questions?
I was wondering how your W has reacted to this news? You say it may not be something straightforward and naturally you are worried. Has she shown any signs of care toward you today?
Ali xxx _______________ Me: 37 H: 34 T: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Own apartment: 26 Jan 08 Depression confirmed!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I'm not much of a worrier! I let W handle that, she seems to enjoy it.
I know this is far less fun than talking about party planning...but somehow I don't think your W enjoys worrying - I think by definition nobody enjoys it. She probably feels obligated to do it because she feels like you won't, therefore she has to (teeter-totter theory). This may be something you could do some 180s on...whether on validating her worry, or even doing a complete 180 and letting your worry out to her.
Just a thought.
(((Jeff))) Happy Friday!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
(((((Ali))))) W hasn't said much of anything, but to be fair to her, I told her yesterday evening, and she had to leave for work this morning at 6:15. To say much more would be sort of like Kalni's flat tire guy, I can make some assumptions, but they are really baseless!
((((((MichelleLT))))) You are right, I know she doesn't really enjoy worrying, but she does seem to think it has to be done! I do try to validate it, but I don't want to get sucked into it, so it is a bit of a challenge. She can worry about just about anything, and do a pretty good job of it! I'm sure I must worry, but I am not a very active worrier!
OK, the latest un-news is that I should be hearing form the doctor's office in the middle of next week about arranging the liver biopsy. So things move forward, at the speed of, hmm, a giant sea slug!
So sorry to hear that it wasn't haemochromatosis- that would have been so easy to fix. And to hear that the biopsy might take some time to arrange. At least you're not over here though- it might be a 9 month wait!
Has the doc given you any other potential diagnoses? I understand if you don't want to post them here.
I guess with W being a nurse (?) she is aware of how serious this could be? I hope she does show some sympathy, or maybe I'll have to come over there and have a word.
It's freezing cold here and there's just been a big hailstorm- very exciting!
L.xx
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
Lol. Well, don't use the time to worry about it. Rather be glad you get to enjoy the weekend before having to go through it!
While I appreciate not wanting to get sucked into it, I can say from the other side of the coin that when my H is mellow/casual/joking about things that I feel need to be dealt with I get annoyed/angry. However, when he gets worried about things, I find it much easier to just be supportive of him. It's a nice role reversal. While I am not trying to encourage you to become a worrywart by any means, perhaps expressing your concerns as actual worry might make her less prone to worrying all the time because she will feel like it is taken care of. It might be worth a try *shrugs*
(((Jeff)))
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I'm new here and was looking around. Just skimmed through your theads. I think that we are in a similar boat. You can check my situation out on my thread.
I also have a live-in WAW. It really stinks. Sorry to hear about your health too.
One thing I am doing to start acting is attend Codependence Anonymous meetings. Its a 12 step group for people who spend too much time trying to solve others problems and not enough on their own. (Gee, maybe that's why I'm here?) If your interested, the web site is http://www.coda.org. The meetings are free and I get more out of the meetings than I do my C. Still seeing C though cause he can help me sort through issues from the meetings.
Hope you get what you want in life.
H - 47 W - 44 M - 18+ years Separated? - 4/07 S - 13 S - 15
I haven't talked to the doctor about potential diagnoses. I don't really need him to speculate, when he already knows he needs more information! I would think W would have an idea that this could be serious. To this point the extent of her sympathy has been to tell me I should exercise more, and eat better. Which is all I expect, actually.
Lisa, just so you know, we are not having cold, or hail! Bring your sunglasses! (It's around 75 today, 24 in your terms! Warmer tomorrow!)
Michelle, thank you for your thoughts on "worrying". I think she does get annoyed when things that bother her don't seem to bother me. I have always sort of thought that wasn't my problem, but maybe there are other ways I can handle it, even so.
Anyway, the middle of next week turned into this afternoon, I am currently scheduled for the biopsy on April 1. The scheduler from the hospital was going to call the doctor's offices with that info, and if they want it sooner, I guess it is possible. Though she said that was the first available! I guess they must have other more available times if you are going to die before you get the procedure, so that they still get paid!
