It's Really Over, Throwing Him Out~ this so hard

[Starshyne]

Your husband and mine must have the same wave length. Let me tell you what happened when I kicked my husband out just so you are ready in case yours does what mine did. It was a Monday night and I finally had decided that enough was enough with him staying with the OW and then coming home to shower, sometimes sleeping at home, etc. So I told him that he had to choose. He chose her. So I literally threw an old suitcase at him and he packed up his stuff. He left and I took the keys away from him.

In the middle of the night he comes knocking on the door. He says that it is all a big mistake and he wants to be with me. The OW means nothing to him and he loves me. He wants our marriage to work and will go to counseling and do whatever it takes to get thing back on track. He hugs and kisses me and tells me that he loves me. I am totally shocked! I asked him what happened to change his mind, and he says that he just couldn't live with the OW that she is controlling and mean. In the morning she calls, and I am in the room while he tells her that he is serious about his wife and their R is over.

Flashforward to Wednesday of that week. H tells me that he just wants to go hang out with the OW for a few hours and then will come home. I tell him that isn't what we agreed on. We have a huge fight. I am crying and begging and screaming for him not to leave. He gets in his car and leaves and I follow him to her house. I stay in my car and bawl my eyes our for at least an hour before I go home.

I find DB the next day and realize that I did many wrong things. But I thought he was serious about ending it with her and I learned that he wasn't.

He also called a lawyer and found that since he name is on the house the same as mine, that I have no legal right to "kick him out." And so he has used this as an excuse to do whatever he wants because I had no power to make him leave.

The OW ended up getting evected from her apartment and had to move into her mom's very small house with her 2 kids. My H came back home because there was no room for him. About a week later, the OW broke it off with my H for real and they no longer contact each other. (if my H does, she is going to get a restraining order against him) So H and I are living under the same roof.

I dont' know if that helps you at all, but I want you to be aware of what could happen with him wanting to come back home. You are very strong for standing up for yourself. Keep that strength going...

sara