i was doing the same thing for awhile. i have learned how to bite my tongue and act all casual but that usually only lasts for a short time. then i find myself not saying anything at all. which i think is better. that way i don't feel degraded and pathetic afterwards.
i know it's the hardest thing in the world to do (especially when not too long ago this was the person you told EVERYTHING to)but it does work. H has told me that he is impressed with me for holding it together and i can tell he is curious as to why.
i really do think your best bet is to act casual if you can. then cry after he leaves if you need to. that's what i do! and everytime it gets a little easier...sometimes i don't cry at all.
Me: 31 H: 29 T: 10 yrs M: 4 1/2 yrs 01/08: MLC 03/17/08: H moved out no kids 3 dogs