I was never lucky enough to have my H return but I really feel red flags here. Seems to me a new 2moro you have to be ready to ask him outright whats going on and risk the consequences of him leaving or you ignor his behaviour and his daily visits to his lady friend and continue getting a life as if your h is just a lodger and not your spouse. Anything in between will drive you crazy and can't be good for your health. I may have missed this but how long was he actually having an A for? is the length of time relevant to him getting over her and how long it will take. Did your H go this long before he left without physical contact ie sex. I really wish you all the best with this. I remember a certain poster saying how easy H coming home was but she was the only person I ever read post that. It must be so so hard and you seem to be doing all you can but don't neglect you and your feelings/needs. Take care.
