WAW...now the LBS Part 2

[HOPEFULinCALI]

jmw,

I'm confused as to why she assumed that you would not go if you are the one that brought the Easter egg hunt to her attention. I think she would understand that you would want to be involved for that experience with your D, particularly because it is a holiday. Will you be going to the Easter egg hunt with that understanding?

how do I proceed? How do I know if we are getting to stage 2? What would be your tell-tale sign? Lack of anger, friendliness, does not seem to be the entire answer...how did you know? what do you think about what is going on with my sitch?

You are right lack of anger and increased friendliness are not the entire answer. In my sitch being friendly meant that I was accomplishing the goals of Stage one. I felt that we were in Stage 2 when he would call, email, text, accept invites, extend invites all for non-business reasons. Even small gestures of your wife doing any or all of the above in my opinion would suggest that you are in Stage 2. A significant amount of your post point towards progress. It took some time before my H and I got to the point where you are now where all interactions are pleasant. Depending on the connection with another person friendships may take sometime to develop. In all of our cases past experiences will somewhat hinder us from developing the friendship than we would of someone that we just met, but it can be done. We have to rebuild that connection. I will check your posts to see if I can find some examples of friendship in your sitch.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship

give us some updates? how's H's knee? are you the resident nurse??

I am the resident nurse it seems. I has been some late nights for me lately: taking him dinner, cleaning up, taking care of the dog and running errands. He is in a tremendous amount of pain and I feel bad that I am only able to stop by or visit for a few hours. I am so greatful for this opportunity though. He really seems to opening up by joking with me and responding to me more. Funny thing occured the other day. I know that I have mentioned Facebook applications and I recieved a notification that he had checked out the inbox on one of my applications. It may not mean anything, but I find it funny that he is poking around when he shouldn't care. I hope that he is coming around b/c sometimes I feel like I am running on fumes. I now am amazed that he waited for me as long as he did. Please also pray for his salvation the enemy has a strong grip on him.

Check out newcomers also. I am going to post a request about defining the stages.