The biggest reason people have anger is due to their ability or inability to forgive. We must forgive in order to heal ourselves of the bitterness and anger. Of course, discussing our concerns with the WAS can help with our ability to forgive. Sometimes it is a hard thing to do. When we are hurt very badly, we have this desire to hold that hurt in and even want to reciprocate that hurt, but obviously that is the wrong path to take. Knowing that we have also hurt them as well, and knowing that NO ONE is perfect, and that we chose to love an imperfect person: that means we love them even in their mistakes that cause us pain. It all takes work, but all of us can get where we want and need to be.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
