I am a happily divorced (for 7 years) man who was married for 15 years at the time of the bomb. I have two sons, same age as yours, so I get that, of course they were younger at the time. I have seen verbal abuse first hand and I have been privy to stories of physical abuse by a couple women in my day. Like everyone else here, I have had my struggles. Like most here, I used those struggels to become a better person.
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How has DBing affected you and your M?
Well, this is not something that could ever give in a signature. DBing did not save my marriage (which is not unique here), but it helped me to learn a new way to live. It help me to accept things I can't change. It helped me to focus on them things within my control. It has helped me to continue to have a very good relation with my ex which is a blessing for my children. It has helped me change my focus from the long run to the here and now.
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I think that may be the essence of what the other poster was trying to get at. They just might be letting out a little aggression in their presentation because of the current dispute over the discussion board practices.
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I can't seem to find an original thread for you... yet you've been here for eight years... giving advice to moderators way back in the day...
How would someone who signed up 3 days ago have any idea that I gave advise to the moderators way back in the day? Maybe they should be honest about who they are and we can have an honest discussion. If you are going to get aggressive over something like a dispute on a bulleting board, you really have a problem.
Know what else I learned from DBing. I learned that if I don't like something to just walk away without anger. When I have an issue or a problem, I go to the source and do not make my business public. If my issue or problem is not resovled as I would like, I chose to live with it or walk away from it based on my situation at the time.
Troubled, I have given you some info. Feel free to ask my any question you like. But this is clearly about you as you asked the question. You can read 40 pages of my posts and get an idea who I am and what I think.
