thanks gals)))))))) I had to go back to my thread in "piecing" and see that I truly did give 110% and that asking for validation from H is an exercise in futility.
Just came from mediator, went pretty well, only once I called on H's whining of "I not get to be on a small appt..." crap, but we did get stuff done faster than last time-- though through some adjustments I end up owing him more than I thought, bummer, but in the overall scheme of things I get to keep the house and keep my kids in their usual routine and environment.
It's sort of ironic, I actually feel good that we ironed out the details, even if that means it's all nice and set up for when he wants to file.
After paying him and him paying me CS I will have enough to live by, a small cushion if something were to happen, but God first I will keep doing fine.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.