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[brueniap]

Thank you for your thots, Troubled Husband, because that's exactly what I was thinking myself. I am responsible for me. If I choose to let people know my address that is my responsibility and no one else's. It is vital to have a lifeline you can trust.

The private message in the profile were a welcome addition from the beginning. If you don't want them you have the choice of having an administrator shut yours down.

I like the way you put it into words........far better than what I would have said.

If you are in dire straits in the middle of the night and crying out for help - and you know you have a life line you can call to get you thru - THAT WON'T COST YOU SEVERAL HUNDRED DOLLARS - why would you keep people from doing that.

I would venture to say that everyone who has come to these boards has bought themselves at least 1 copy of Michele's books if not all of them. Not only that - but they have recommended the book and the website to many.

And now we're being told what to say and how to say it and that we can not allow information about ourselves to the lifelines we've been talking to for days, months, weeks and YEARS.

And at the risk of being deleted.........I find it very "cultish" to have this kind of control over people. This is what gets many programs in trouble - and I've seen it happen over and over again in my life time.........where the powers that be established this power reign that left it's followers to be nothing more than zombies..........and worse yet......dead.

Our spouses who left us behind do the same thing......it's a matter of control with them....which often times becomes a very dangerous situation.

I don't usually speak up about anything.......but this is very bothersome what is going on here. You may be weeding all of us "troublemakers" out of here........and that's ok........but the newbies will become nothing but little stepford wives/husbands with their mantras of get a life, get a life etc. But when they're falling apart and need a real friend....they are denied.

I often wondered, over the years I've been here, why Michele never stopped by this board to offer some wisdom. We all asked it on many occasions. Maybe something at the top of the page that she had some fresh thots on. This is the most interaction from the "higher ups" that we've had in the 2 plus years that i've been here.

this board once had a terrific impact on many, many people. It's like the courtroom...........the law is always on the side of the guilty............not the victim. We've lost our spouses, our homes are disrupted.......our children torn.......and we, who need the help, are denied the chance to speak for ourselves.

brue