Water, You definitely took the bull by the horns. You titled your thread, "It's really over..." but it may not be. Up until now, he's been in total control of the sitch, including his threats of leaving if you didn't stop snooping. He had you right where he wanted you so he could keep on chowing down on his cake.
Kicking him out was a LRT (and it took a huge amount of courage!). I bet he didn't see that coming at all. Now you're in control. I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't come back asking for a second chance. So, if he does, be prepared. Know what you want (such end the A, NO contact, transparency from him, counseling).
Joie
I have to agree with everything Joie said! I find that since my H moved out, he is emailing me every day which he hadn't been, planning on seeing the kids more than he did when he moved out, etc. I think esp. since you have 2 children it's not over b/c you will have contact re: the kids... Karen
Karen
