Oh man, I can feel your hurt. I am so sorry. So very sorry. OW may sound confident, and your hurt is very real, but really, you have the better life. You can go to sleep at night knowing you did everything you could, you stood up for yourself, and you knew when your lines have been crossed. Morals can really help with insomnia, my friend. I am sorry you are here. Joie, Sue and Puppy are amazing support, each of them in different spots, but have been in the spot you are right now.
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I am losing all of my self respect.
Not lost anymore. Good job. It took me forever to see what H's cake eating was doing to me, even when people pointed it out. I finally got him to leave 3 weeks ago. Hard? OMG yes. But there are 2 hard roads (him here, him gone) and the 'him gone' gives me my self respect and peace back. Why live their crazy life with them?
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I plan to stay strong and show him that i'll be ok, that my girls will be ok.
Not only will you show him this, it will become your fact of life. It will give you the self confidence back, everything you need to have peace again. Set your own pace without H at home. Secure your finances and quietly visit an attorney to make sure you are doing everything right.
I am thinking of you.
You can still DB by the way, your plans to stay strong and be there for your kids is perfect DB!!! Its not over, there's just been a shake up, and that can be a good thing.
I recommend minimal contact with your H, and be kind when you do speak with him. No more tears, and definately no more contact with OW!!! She is not worth your time.
