CM, I understand your position of wanting her to know where your real motivation is coming from. I am in a similar situation.
4kids, I just want to welcome you to my thred firstly and thank you for your Scriptural perspective!
I've been a stander (initially "unknowingly" though) since the day my wife left and the rebirth of my Faith has been marvellous
My wife has already filed for divorce (just to bring you up to "speed") AND has taken me to court subsequently for interim maintenance & I'm now paying her three thousand rand a month (her legal costs are included in this sum)
Essentially, we're "waiting" for a court date and then it might even be a roll of the dice to decide about the ownership of MY house and how much my wife should be compensated
The house was put in my wifes name due to business reasons, but essentially my late Mum bought the house & I put all of my inheritance money into the property to make it paid up -> my wife is CLAIMING ownership of the house as a result & my Mum is not around to say otherwise
It is difficult to know what is right. It can be difficult to discern when the motivation is coming from our own selfish desires or when we are acting out of love. Ian is correct in that if we speak out of place it can be construed as arrogance. Yet we have a higher calling to uphold the truth as well(Romans 10:14).
Lean on the Lord and Him direct your steps(Pro 3:5-6). Have peace in the fact that the Lord knows your heart.
Good Friday,
N.
I will post some more questions to you about the last few comments you made but I have to go out to my dance partners house now as her mother has kindly organised supper etc...
and thank you for your Scriptural perspective!
