Had a nice night out with W, she said it was good that the two of us are getting out together and enjoying each others company. She also seemed intrigued at the number of new friends I had met up with since I started to GAL. Actually she gave me a clue about this a few days ago when she asked me if I thought my "get up and go" had disappeared over the previous few year. (maybe some truth in that).
No bed room action, when we got home W wrapped up warm , snuggled up to me and was asleep in seconds. This morning I was primed and ready to go but W reminded me it was the wrong time of the month. (how could I have missed that ?).
Hey Forrest,
Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump
Look at who you are. Dude it shines thru.
I could see it from day 1.
Day one I was in panic mode with NFC, what was it you could see in me, if theres something good there I want to try and build on it.
I would say what you just wrote was a huge sign. You went from flinching when you touched her, to panties, to that time of the month.
She did not say No!
Look at the way she is talking to you. Telling you she enjoyed your company. Asking why you did not do it more often. You not getting mad at her for blaming you for never going out. You actually realizing she had a point.
1 little thought and I can get all that from it.
The dynamic is changing. You just keep building on that.
I can't explain what I saw. Don't know that I fully understand it myself. I just knew you could win at this game.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Oh, and W wants me to print off a photograph of us to have on her desk at work.
I went out with W for a surprise 50th birthday party for her boss, later in the evening I was introduced to him and he said "I've hear a lot about you from your W, and I've seen you picture on her desk" (Wow) . W and I enjoyed the evening and on the way home she thanked me for joining her at this event, and said we should go out together more often.
Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump 03/21/08
The dynamic is changing. You just keep building on that.
Sunday W and I attended an Easter service at church, W again thanked me for accompanying her, not only to church, but for stepping forward and receiving a blessing. I told W no need to thank me as I sometimes attend church on my own. W told me she knew this as someone in church had told her they had seen me attending church on my own.
When I was separated from W for 2 months my Mom told me to go to church, pray and good things would happen. Steadily good things are happening.
Some people can dwell here a while. You still have the sex thing to get through then the, well we are back talking and doing it now what.
It just starts to become a show about you and her. Reacting to the situation at hand and hopefully starting to grow together. You start getting answers. You start understanding it better. After that bliss, maybe?
Michelle writes about it in the marriage stages section of the book. She does a pretty good explanation of it. It just gets really hard for outsiders to respond in any other way than "Good Job" or "Keep It Up" or "I Wish I was You".
It still is work. It just feels a lot less like work than it did.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
