OK ladies. I have a question from a husband that went through a MLC which ended in an EA. My W went through a rebuilding process for a while and then we seemed to be over the hump. Now its over a year later and she as completely shut me out. I think maybe she rushed back into things with us before she was really ready or she just can't get it out of her mind. Anyway, we are basically seperated in the same house. She doesn't want to leave because of the kids, but she says she doesn't love me anymore. I feel like she is mad at me and it all goes back to my EA.
Right now I am basically giving her space and showing her my changes are not going away. She has even said that the last 18 months, I have been the husband I should have always been. I see her love coming back from time to time, but its sporatic at best. Seems like she lets her guard down and we are good and then she puts it back up instead of letting go.
Any word of advice? I have never been more ashamed and disgusted with what I did. I never expected that I would have an EA until I found myself there. I have completely stopped all contact with them and have been dedicated to my marriage since then.
Help! I want us to be able to move on and grow old together....
