Give the lexapro time. As Ian said, it will level you out better as it gets integrated into your system.
Glad you continue with the Divorce Care group. The meetings are good for you I'm sure, but the contacts you conceivably make there are the really strong value in it. You need someone(s) close to you who can relate to what you're going through.
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More to the point he got me to see that we were living in 'little things' all the time.
This is one of your greatest challenges right now. It's BEEN a problem yes, because your wife has not given you reason to feel as though you were safe and secure in the relationship, particularly over the last ten years or so.
It's a challenge now because of that part of you inside that insists that the two of you could make this work. Any time she's nice (or at least not indifferent/angry) your mind sees the potential there. Then she lets loose with another of her irrational thoughts that signal the end of the marriage and you crash again. Too much focus on the little things Frank. See the bigger picture, see and be honest with yourself about where this thing is headed right now.
Ian is right about peace being your primary goal right now. Processing her leaving and the marriage ending is a long and ongoing thing. Fortunately it's also something that rewards as you go. Each step along the way you benefit from the improved peace that you experience.
Again, the message is simple.
Take care of Frank and his daughters.
Take care of your career and the other intangibles.
Realize that nothing your wife does at this point requires much of a response from you.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
