Rain, my H used to love going for walks in the rain when we were dating. I guess if it every warms up here I will have to invite him on one. We are supposed to get snow tonight, good thing spring started yesterday.
Kalni, you are your own sunshine, and you bring a lot of light into our lives.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I just came back. I went to visit my "god-daughter" at the hospital. Me & her mom have known each other for nearly 20 years. We lived in the same building (one wall appart) for 3 years, we got married the same time -a month diffrence, we gave birth to our first children in the same week. This week she nearly lost her D. My girl. We were sitting in the hospital, the doctors confirmed yesterday everything turned out Ok, she is not in danger anymore, and I was thinking... This is something that I couldn't EVER handle. The thought only drives me crazy. I've been working my (nice little) a&^ off this week and was worried about my H decisions and my friend was worrying about the life of her little girl... We get so absorved by all this...
Thanks God, your goddaughter is going to be all right!
I agree, it puts things into perspective...
((hugs))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
My kids just left with their dad and I am going shopping (!!!). I am down three sizes ever since this mess started and my clothes don't fit. I was never-ever fat, used to be skinny thin but the last couple of years I had gained some weight which I didnt try to lose. Now people think I am below average close to very thin. I enjoy it so much cause that's the way I was when I was 20-27 year old.
So, I am down to size 26-25 in jeans and all my old jeans were 29. I am going to head to town and get some trousers and sexy tops. I am changing my style, I was not feeling comfortable with myself but now I think I can leave behind my work suits and quiet tops. As I say in Greek I can "support" this way of dressing now. Upbeat, and happy and sick and flirty... (Lisa gave me some ideas) (I've done the undies upgrade already)
Yesterday it was a full day. A friend of mine called to say that 2 weeks ago she runned into a friend of my H's lawyer (ex GF he left over me 12 years ago) and she heard the story of my life from a person I have never met. She gave her the picture that my H had enough and I was devastated and the divorce is right at the corner. Really bothered me for a sec. This lawyer friend is someone that knew my H had a problem with our marriage before I did. She could be a possibe EA and a woman that spend 10 years in therapy to overcome him. So now, for her, revenge is a plate to be eaten cold as we say. The minute I heard this, two things stuck in my head. First of all the phrase " keep the champagne corks on cause nothing is over till is over lady", and WTF? 2 weeks ago we were already in the super friendly mode with him having second thoughts. So either he hasn't talked to her lately, or she hasn't talked to her friend lately or he just isn't telling her the progress in our R (if any). I told him that on the phone.He called me a couple of times and during one phonecall I told him. Very casually not sounding mad or anything. Just so that he knows the woman who he "trusted more than anyone" is been broadcasting our lifes' details to people that don't know us. I could tell he didn't like it, he felt disappointed. Up until a month ago he was complaining I am telling our friends we are separated...
He just picked up the kids, going to their T. Lets' see how that will turn out...
I'm glad your God-daughter is going to be alright. You're right, things like that really do put our sitch's in perspective.. it could be much worse.
You really are tiny... wearing a 25 or 26... my goodness. I am envious. I have gone down in sizes but I'm nowhere near that. I think if I lost every ounce of fat I still couldn't be that size.. my bones are just too big!
Anyway, I hope you have a wonderful time shopping.. and I'm glad you spilled the beans to your H about people talking. I did the same thing to my H.. and he was pi$$ed off. He is very private and thought he was getting away with people at work not knowing what was happening.. which was completely false. I got to be the one to tell him that everyone knew (although I didn't know who told) and that they were all talking about it. Oh the drama of it all.
Have a good day friend. I'm going to my sisters for Easter so I'll be gone until tomorrow night. Please don't send the Red Cross!!
I am that size too ! I think Pisceans tend to be lean (ever seen a fat fish !?). I've always been that size and am lucky, but sometimes I wish I was more voluptuous and womanly! We always want what we havent got. I love your idea of getting a new image, thats perfect with Venus in Pisces for a few weeks (thats what you should do when Venus is in your sign). I tried the past few days, but I bought a coat and t-shirt...not very alluring ! I'm a bad shopper, I always pick up the same old styles. You've inspired me to try harder! Thankyou.
That can't have been nice to hear such a negative potrayal third hand like that (4th hand !?) of your sitch. I think its amazing that you told your H, shows you are feeling more comfortable in being honest with him. And its good that he didnt freak out, or go back into his nest, or all those other things that may have happened a few months ago. And good that he gets to see that this woman he has maybe confided in has ulterior motives...I would read that as however he has painted it to her, she has HEARD it as he is getting a D, because thats what she wants. (Wow, she spent 10 years in therapy to get over him? I know a woman who was in love with my BF for over 7 years and the one opportunity she had alone with him when he was very very drunk, she pounced and something happened, which he was mortified about afterwards. That was 3 years ago and I was thinking yesterday she would be delighted also to hear that we have split up, because she has loved him for 10 years secretly too. But hes not in touch with her, thank god. But wierd hey, our men have these 10 year candles for them!)
Um, waffling on, but ...I hope something comes out of the T session today..with that Full Moon in Libra..
Ali xxx ________________ Me: 37 H: 34 T: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Own apartment: 26 Jan 08
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
