Question for any WAW, lost and hope you can help

[Hope4us]

Restless, Almost 7 weeks ago my wife announced she "wanted a divorce. It's what I want. We're not getting any younger". I told her if she wanted to file I couldn't stop her, but I would not agree to a "friendly" divorce like she'd suggested. I also told her I would hire my own attorney and counter sue for adultery (my wife had an affair that started our whole mess). That day I started the LRT. I completely quit doing everything I had been doing since discovering the affair. No ILY's, no asking how her day was, no good nights, very little help around the house, started going out with friends or by myself. Complete 180's and started taking the attitude that I was going to enjoy my life, with or without her. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but I don't need to. Took DS15 on a long weekend "manly" trip and didn't call her once. Had to go out of town for work for a week and didn't call/email nothing while I was gone.

And ya know what? 6 weeks later she is not going to divorce or "go anywhere" until "at least" DS15 graduates from H.S. And she has been responding more and more to me. Now, I have to deal with her fighting her affair demons that it doesn't sound like you have to deal with, but the turn a round has been amazing. Not sure we'll make it in the end or not, but the progress that's been made in the last 7 weeks is amazing.

I guess what I'm saying is, GAL, quit pursuing, act "as if" you're moving on with your life. Acting as if does two things for you. It makes your wife see that you're ok without her which get's her curious and if she never comes back, you've started to live YOUR life. It also give you amazing confidence. All which are attractive to a WAS.