Another thought from me, that might be more helpful: when you feel threatened... you dont have to threaten back. There are other options. Hopefully, you can think of a response that makes you feel "strong" in yourself, without at the same time being a "counter-attack".
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
