I think that perhaps you went too far.

That there is a difference between being "passive", and being "patient".

That there is a difference between being "assertive", and being "abrasive".

On the other hand of things, there is a difference between being caring+understanding, vs "being a doormat".

it's a tough balancing act to manage. i have difficulty keeping all of the above balanced myself ;\)


Personally, i think that, when being treated badly by someone... PARTICULARLY by a woman... "showing them" by treating them the same way... usually backfires.
In other words, playing the fence sitting game, to "show her what it's like", looks like it backfired on you.

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what good is getting her back if its a falxse connection were i have to be submissive to be with her. i want a partnership not a distatorship.

how do you feel like you are "in a dictatorship"?

Last edited by Dom R; 03/21/08 04:45 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle