Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

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W came to the house to work on the list of what she wants, it's not a big one. I probably went against DB but I apologized for not being the husband she needed. I explained that I now see what I should have been. We talked for a couple of hours, in fact she just left. I told her I don't want our M back, just a chance to start anew. She asked me why I wanted to take her to dinner I explained that seeing her she could see my changes.

I met an old friend by chance at a hotel where we take care of the elevators while I was working Wed. She was in town for business. She invited me to come back after work and have a couple of drinks with her in the lounge. Talked about our lives and kids. She's going through a D also, she ended up getting plastered on wine. I had to help her up to her room. While in the room she tried to put the move on me. It was tempting but with alcohol involved I told her maybe next time. It sure was tempting, but I'm glad nothing happened. I got an E-mail from her today apologizing and thanking me for turning her down.

I understand about no urgency about S moving back home. I told my W if she decided to come back it would be six months before she would move back, the rest of the time would be working on getting the feelings back again. She stayed here for about 4 hours. It seemed she didn't want to leave. She told me of some things that pushed her away, I remembered to try and validate. Agreed with her on most of her points. Tried hard to not defend myself just listen.

Mike