ewe, Turbo Tax. I'm not even going to go there with our taxes this year, they are WAY out of my league this time. finally giving in to paying someone else to do it!
Nik, it sounds like you have a good plan for yourself.
you know, this might be a way to start the convo... "H I want to apologize for my recent snippy/anger/(whatever you call it) behavior, I don't mean to take this feelings out on you. And I've realized that these feelings have been because I've been afraid to share some of my true feelings with you." etc etc etc.
definitely let us know how that goes if you decide to have that talk! And you made a GREAT point about your H doing the same thing with you. If he wasn't looking at your R in a future standpoint, then he wouldn't be telling you things that he has concerns with you about. So that is a huge step for him. I'd almost tell him that his comment has really made you think and learn that those are things you need to do too. Like you said, you guys can't mindread each other.
it's all about fear. We're afraid of hurting the other person's feelings if we share our true thoughts, we're afraid that they're going to get all upset and defensive at us, or we're afraid they might just give up on us. just like you mentioned.
hey, only if you want to share, but I'd like to know what the "tough stuff" your referring to. If you don't mind.
hope you get your taxes done quickly and accurately!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
