My wife is not physically abusive with the kids. Just explosive verbally. She has come far enough to no longer slam doors, throw stuff, and 4/07 was the first and last time she physically injured me.
She has started telling one of our sons that she is working on being less critical and judgemental. She noticed it rubbing off on him and doesn't like what she sees. She is beginning to realize that she is truly becoming her mother and she doesn't like it.
Right now we have just entered a calm period. I know that this could just be part of the cycle, but the words and actions are just a little different. Time will tell.
Our oldest son has PDD and other developmental issues. He has a fairly normal IQ but is fairly unaware of social queues. He just disappear if my wife yells too much (maybe he is more adept than people give him credit for??).
I am also concerned about the kids. I am torn between: - breaking up the home, when both care about their mother and myself - allowing them to continue in the verbal abuse (which I won't be able to mitigate if she gets custody) - giving them the wrong impression of what a marriage should look like - PDD son would never understand or be able to accept two households. He does not handle change well.
H - 47 W - 44 M - 18+ years Separated? - 4/07 S - 13 S - 15
